Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Ricky Martin Stops Listening to the Lies, Hate, and Fear and Comes Out

     Yesterday, Ricky Martin posted a heartfelt letter on his website in which he stated, "I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man."

     In the letter he admits and takes responsibility for the silence and duplicity that he lived for years in the spotlight.  He discusses the difficulty that he had coming to a place where he could be honest about who he is.

     I found his description of what others were telling him over the years very similar to the closeted voices of priests and seminarians that I heard back in the days when I wanted to come out.
     Many people told me: "Ricky it's not important", "it's not worth it", "all the years you've worked and everything you've built will collapse", "many people in the world are not ready to accept your truth, your reality, your nature". Because all this advice came from people who I love dearly, I decided to move on with my life not sharing with the world my entire truth. Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions.
     Those voices, those people that claim to love but tell someone to lie about who they are, those are the voices of the Gospel According to Hate.

     Ricky, I'm proud of you.  You broke through the shame and fear.  Welcome to the other side.  Much peace and joy to you, my brother.